Evening with Wolfling
Sep. 27th, 2008 09:02 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
qosAfter a week of stress and angst, I had a wonderful evening last night with Wolfling. A local theater group was doing Private Lives and she said without hesitation that she would rather go with her mother to watch Noel Coward than attend the first dance of the year at her junior high. To her it was a no-brainer.
We had dinner at Red Robin, something we usually don't do, and I told her a bit about what I've been going through this past week, including the decision to find a therapist. I don't think she was able to truly comprehend all of it, but she grokked most of what I was saying about what was hurting and what I needed to do about it, and she was very supportive. My favorite comment went to the effect of, "Well, if you hadn't told me this but you said you were going to see a therapist, my first reaction would have been And you want to be normal why?"
After dinner we walked through Pier One and Bed, Bath & Beyond -- and I couldn't believe how much fun it was. Neither of us are usually "shoppers" but we were both enjoying hanging out together and sharing the experience of looking at things. It may be the most low-key companionable time we've had. As we headed back to the car, Wolfling said "We should do this more often."
My almost-thirteen-year-old daughter wants to spend more time hanging out with me!
Whatever else may need fixing in my life, I'm doing something right!
Private Lives with fun -- with the added zing of having the Ex and his new wife sitting with Wolfling and me. Fortunately, our divorce -- in fact, all of our relationship -- was so much different from those portrayed in the play that there wasn't any awkwardness, but it still added a funny edge.
Wolfling went home with her dad after the show. I went home alone (which was fine), had some vodka and played Bejeweled to unwind, then slept really well for eight hours. In fact, I think it's the first time in weeks that I've slept through the night. I think the nice evening with Wolfling was the biggest aid to that. I really felt good.
We had dinner at Red Robin, something we usually don't do, and I told her a bit about what I've been going through this past week, including the decision to find a therapist. I don't think she was able to truly comprehend all of it, but she grokked most of what I was saying about what was hurting and what I needed to do about it, and she was very supportive. My favorite comment went to the effect of, "Well, if you hadn't told me this but you said you were going to see a therapist, my first reaction would have been And you want to be normal why?"
After dinner we walked through Pier One and Bed, Bath & Beyond -- and I couldn't believe how much fun it was. Neither of us are usually "shoppers" but we were both enjoying hanging out together and sharing the experience of looking at things. It may be the most low-key companionable time we've had. As we headed back to the car, Wolfling said "We should do this more often."
My almost-thirteen-year-old daughter wants to spend more time hanging out with me!
Whatever else may need fixing in my life, I'm doing something right!
Private Lives with fun -- with the added zing of having the Ex and his new wife sitting with Wolfling and me. Fortunately, our divorce -- in fact, all of our relationship -- was so much different from those portrayed in the play that there wasn't any awkwardness, but it still added a funny edge.
Wolfling went home with her dad after the show. I went home alone (which was fine), had some vodka and played Bejeweled to unwind, then slept really well for eight hours. In fact, I think it's the first time in weeks that I've slept through the night. I think the nice evening with Wolfling was the biggest aid to that. I really felt good.
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Date: 2008-09-27 05:12 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-09-27 05:32 pm (UTC)I only found out because Wolfling slipped and said something. Then I agreed to keep it secret until a month ago when it became public.
The Ex had been seeing A for I'm-not-sure-how-long -- but long enough for me to be comfortable with her and feel good about her interactions with Wolfling. I think he's nuts to be getting married a third time, but she may be his best choice of a partner to-date.
So long as any partner of his treats my daughter well, I consider everything else Not My Problem.
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Date: 2008-09-29 06:46 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2008-09-28 04:50 pm (UTC)The marriage of your Ex wasn't totally secret - we knew about it just after it happened but were keeping it under cover until it became generalized knowledge.
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Date: 2008-09-28 05:30 pm (UTC)