Daughter/GodDaughter Update
Jun. 2nd, 2004 05:57 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
qosThought I should mention that everything seems back to normal at my house. The Goddaughter has indeed recovered her emotional equilibrium, my own daughter feels fine about being around her again, and although it was a tragic accident and an all-around awful experience, I think some of the direct participants have managed to get some growth out of it.
The Goddaughter has been confronted with the fact that her anger response levels are not normal -- but people still love her -- and she has begun to seriously consider getting some intense counseling to help her continue her personal healing process.
My daughter, as I remarked yesterday, learned an important lesson about the different ways people express anger, and how to cope with that. And she learned about honesty and thinking twice before remaining silent when she knows that someone or something is being or has been hurt. I haven't even begun to plumb the depths of that lesson, but we're going to be revisiting it in a couple of weeks.
I'm also very proud of the way she spoke up to the Goddaughter when she had her chance to give her side of the story. Every so often, in the face of strong emotion, she'll crumple a bit and not want to speak. But she told her side of the story clearly, despite her tears, and she made eye contact with the Goddaughter the whole time. No whining. No complaining about things being unfair. No retreat into pseudo-cute helplessness.
I have great hopes for the woman she will become.
The Goddaughter has been confronted with the fact that her anger response levels are not normal -- but people still love her -- and she has begun to seriously consider getting some intense counseling to help her continue her personal healing process.
My daughter, as I remarked yesterday, learned an important lesson about the different ways people express anger, and how to cope with that. And she learned about honesty and thinking twice before remaining silent when she knows that someone or something is being or has been hurt. I haven't even begun to plumb the depths of that lesson, but we're going to be revisiting it in a couple of weeks.
I'm also very proud of the way she spoke up to the Goddaughter when she had her chance to give her side of the story. Every so often, in the face of strong emotion, she'll crumple a bit and not want to speak. But she told her side of the story clearly, despite her tears, and she made eye contact with the Goddaughter the whole time. No whining. No complaining about things being unfair. No retreat into pseudo-cute helplessness.
I have great hopes for the woman she will become.
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Date: 2004-06-02 08:12 am (UTC)I know (far too) many adults who could learn a thing or two from her...
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Date: 2004-06-02 04:45 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2004-06-02 04:16 pm (UTC)Well done mother and daughter.
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Date: 2004-06-02 04:48 pm (UTC)Being a mother really is the hardest thing I've ever undertaken -- the more so because it wasn't something I had ever had any ambition of being. It becomes steadily more rewarding, however, especially with the child that I have.