The Pain of Healing

[qos]

I only cry once a week or so now.

I tell myself not that that's not a good thing or a bad thing, it's normal.
Time passes.
Healing occurs.

Except I want to keep ripping the scab off, feel the blood flowing again, keep the wound fresh.

How can I possibly feel "okay" most of the time when he is not here?

It's normal.
It's healthy.

How can I not want to heal?

I never want to be "over it."

Maybe the mourning goes underground, like a deep and silent river. It's not always visible, but it's always there, always flowing. My love for him goes on. My desire to be with him goes on.

Maybe the mourning does pass and eventually only the love remains.

I don't know. This is unfamiliar territory.

Most days I'm fine.
Most days I am aware of his absence but I do not weep.
Most days I don't hurt.

Except when I do.

Comments

[coen.livejournal.com]

I have another question for you (if you don't mind my curiousity)

wandering through your LJ I find paganist, occult, and christian themes. Most people would think those are incompatible, but apparently you don't.

So, what are you? Do you consider yourself a christian or a a pagan, or both, or neither?

As for myself, I consider myself an atheist, but I do have an intrest in all forms of spirituality that are not dogmatic and not fundamentalistic.
I support all religions and philosophies that encourage people to think, to ask questions, and to explore. That doesn't mean I believe in all the things those religions preach, in fact I don't believe in most of it, but I do respect it, and I do want to know about it.
So basically I am a very curious atheist.

[qos.livejournal.com]

I am. . . . an ordained priestess of the Holy Grail. I honor all paths to the Divine that embrace the concepts of love, wisdom and service. I believe that union with the Divine and increasing one's ability to love and heal one's fellow humans and the earth are the basic goals of the spiritual life. I believe that following the essential teachings of Yeshua/Jesus is one of the best ways to progress on this path -- but it's not the only way.

I am also an Underworld priestess and shaman. I "journey" to the otherworld(s) and work with deities and spirits who mainstream Christianity say either don't exist or are evil deceptions.

In my experience, sacred sexuality is a powerful way of connecting with the Divine and my partner, a way of channeling power and blessing into the world. In ways I don't yet fully understand, this is also part of my priestess path.

I don't fit well in organizations and see myself rather as the Hermit in the tarot: holding my lantern up to show others the path I've walked. It's not the only path, but I've found that my experiences and my reflections on those experiences, have been of value to some others.

[coen.livejournal.com]

That is definately very different from mainstream christianity.

I was raised as a catholic, and even though I am an atheist now, and have left the churh 23 years ago, there are still parts of christianity that I like and mean a lot to me.
There are also parts I don't like, and never did like.

One of those things I don't like is that in most churches there seems to be the idea that everything physical is bad or sinfull, and it can only stop you from growing spiritually. We need to eat and drink in order to live, but let's not enjoy it! We need sex in order to reproduce, but let's not enjoy it. The only way to spiritual growth seems to be to eat and drink and have sex as little as possible.
I never liked that part.

In paganism I found that physical activities (such as sex) can be part of spiritual growth, and I like that.
We are humans, and our physical bodies are not jut a burden we drag along, our physical bodies are what we are. So why not make our physical experiences part of our spiritual growth?

You seem to have found a way to combine that physical aspect with christianity. sacred sex as a way to connect with the divine, I quite like that idea. I guess a lot of christians would not approve of that. But I like it.

As for what I believe: I believe that if we value our lives, we should value all aspects of it, so that would include physical aspects such as sex and eating and drinking and sleeping.
We should not be slaves to our physical desires, but we should not deny them either. Our physical desires are part of what we are, and should be honoured as such.