Another Question Meme

[qos]

Snitched from the intriguing lordandrei

Ask me a question about each of the following:


Friends

Sex

Music

ETA: Movies (I took "drugs" off the list, and my musical interests aren't particularly revealing. "Movies" is a much more fruitful topic.)

Love

LiveJournal

Other (open ended)


Go for broke :)

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[professor-mom.livejournal.com]

Friends: Tell me who your best friends on LJ are. Tell me about dancingchaplain,queen of halves, and iswari. How long have you known them? What are they like? Who among LJ members did you go to divinity school with?

What advice would you give to someone who wanted to be your friend?

Sex: Are you currently in a sexual relationship?
Are you completely heterosexual?

Music: What kind of music do you like? Name 10 of your favorite songs. Do you make music?

Love: Whom do you love?

Did you ever fall in love online?

Live Journal: How much time do you spend on LJ. What do you get out of being a paid member? Are you in other online communities? How did you get the name qos and where?

Other: To whom do you pray? What groups do you worship with?

Did you ever fix your bathtub?

Answers, pt. 1

[qos.livejournal.com]

Friends: Tell me who your best friends on LJ are.
I’m very fortunate to have made some wonderful friends on LJ. I hate to even designate some of them as “best” since there are so many who are wonderful. queenofhalves, zenaida_mac and toesontheground were three of my earliest LJ friends. _storyteller_, dancingchaplain and kateri_thinks are also in the “best friend” category. So are athenian_abroad, who I’ve known for most of my life, and bookchick, who’s been my best girlfriend for the past ten years.

Tell me about dancingchaplain, queen of halves, and iswari. How long have you known them? What are they like?
I met queenofhalves within a month or so of starting LJ, back in October or November of 2003. She is the only one of these three I’ve spent time with offline. She’s a very fine academic, a powerful wise woman (especially considering her relatively young age), and a thoughtful, loving person. She inspires me with the passion, courage and intelligence she brings to all areas of her life. I “met” iswari a few years ago on LJ. She is very spiritual, and inspires me with the steadfastness of her faith, courage, and love. dancingchaplain is a chaplain, and I love conversing with her about Christianity – a faith we both love but honor in different ways. She is thoughtful, passionate, strong in her faith, and inspires me with her courage and sense of humor. She’s doing a job I could never do, and I admire her for it. I would highly recommend their journals.

Who among LJ members did you go to divinity school with?
None of them.

What advice would you give to someone who wanted to be your friend?
Be genuine. Be willing to share your thoughts and feelings. I don’t do ‘small talk’ well, and conversing (or corresponding) is how I build relationships. I want to go deep with someone. Have a sense of humor. Be able to listen to the opinions and beliefs of others with respect, and be curious, not threatened, by the differences. Delight in imagination.

Sex: Are you currently in a sexual relationship?
Not right now. And I haven’t been for about three or four years.

Are you completely heterosexual?
In practice, yes. But that could change.
When I was an undergraduate, I had a crush on another girl, and the older I get the more open I become to the possibility of a relationship with another woman, but I’ve never met another woman who had the kind of energy that attracts me on a romantic-sexual level.

Answers, pt. 2

[qos.livejournal.com]

Music:
What kind of music do you like?
I grew up in the 1970’s and ‘80’s and it left it’s mark. I like seventies and eighties pop, show tunes, orchestral movie soundtracks (Williams, Hamlisch, Doyle, etc.), and – ever since I was pregnant – country.

Name 10 of your favorite songs.
In no particular order: Defying Gravity (from Wicked), Standing Outside the Fire (Garth Brooks), Let the River Run (Michael Ball), Tonight is What It Means to Be Young (from Streets of Fire), The Best of Times (Styx), Elephant Love Medley (from Moulin Rouge, Joan of Arc (Jennifer Warnes), Ordinary Miracles (Barbra Streisand), Stars (from Les Miserables), The Last Saskatchewan Pirate (Captain Tractor). This leaves out all the instrumental tracks. . .

Do you make music?
Not the way I used to. I grew up singing in church choirs, playing handbells, clarinet and tenor saxophone. But I haven’t made music regularly since my first semester of college. Which is sad. I ended up being a theater major as an undergrad: directing and stage management.

Love: Whom do you love?
My 10 year-old daughter, my parents and sister, some very good friends.

Did you ever fall in love online?
I’ll get back to you on that one.

Live Journal: How much time do you spend on LJ?
Too much! Usually least an hour day, some days more, depending on what kinds of entries my friends are making and what’s going on in my own life that I feel like posting about. Some days everyone just has routine events, silly quiz results, and random comments. Other days there are serious, meaty topics to engage with – for my friends or myself.

What do you get out of being a paid member?
100 userpics!
I have 80-some active right now.
Anyone who wants to get to know me very quickly should go to my User Info page, click on my icon, and view my userpic gallery.

Are you in other online communities?
No.

How did you get the name qos and where?
QoS stands for “Queen of Swords” – the tarot card archetype with which I strongly identify. I could have used Queen of Swords as my username, but didn’t want to have to type all those letters all the time. I slightly regret that now because qos is so ambiguous, and in many fonts the “q” gets mistaken for “g” so I become “gos” to some people.

Other: To whom do you pray?
The One. The Almighty Creator.
When I feel the need to connect using a name, it’s usually Christ, or the Goddess.
I do not identify as Christian, because I choose to stand outside of any organized religion, but my roots are Christian, and they go very deep. I first came to know God through the Christian lens, and through a relationship with Christ, and that has stuck with me, even though I no longer define myself that way or limit my spiritual path to Christian doctrine or practice.

What groups do you worship with?
I don’t do group worship much anymore. This past Christmas I worshipped with the Swedenborgian Church, the closest thing I have to a “church home,” and went to an evening prayer service with thomryng and jaynefury at their Catholic church.
I am ordained as a priestess in the Ordo Arcanorum Gradalis, a Christo-Pagan Fellowship of the Grail Quest. Unfortunately, the group is very small and scattered, so it does not provide much community.

Did you ever fix your bathtub?
LOL!
No – and my daughter reminded me strongly the other day that I’ve never bought a new plug. I need to take care of that this weekend.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_storyteller_/]

Friends: Let me know about a friend you have had a falling out with who you wish you could talk to or restore the friendship now, what would you say to them?

Sex: What is your favorite sexual activity?

Music: What song makes you feel in love?

Movies: Name three actor/actresses who if combined would make the perfect actor/actress?

Love: What is the most extereme thing you have ever done because you were in love?

Livejournal: What do you wish you could change about LJ?

Other Question: I like momentary glimpses into the mind, if you could have anything right now, what would it be?

[qos.livejournal.com]

1. My first boyfriend ended communication with me about eight years ago, after (as I understand it, since he didn't tell me himself) that we no longer had anything to say to each other. I can understand why he did it. Our last encounter had not been comfortable. But he was one of my very best friends, and I miss that friendship. I'm not sure if we have a basis for friendship anymore, but I wish I could invite him out for a drink, and just talk, just to find out if it was possible to reconnect now.

2. You know, even if I was willing to answer this one on LJ, I don't think I could. It's been too long since I've had sex. . . And at such time as it happens again, I want to go into it with as few expectations from the past as possible.

3. The first song that comes to mind is Burn by JoDee Messina. I believe it's on the CD I sent you. Come What May from Moulin Rouge is also right up there.

4. Hmmm. . . I don't know about this one. It's not a mental game I've played before.

5. I took on a permanent submissive role in a relationship for approximately one year.

6. I would make it easier to search journals for an interest. I'd like to click on a particular interest in someone's list and have it bring up a list of related entries. Tags help that, but you can't always see a person's tags.

7. If I could have anything right now, at this moment, I'd conjure up a slice of chocolate cream pie. I'm having chocolate cravings. More seriously, my own house. One set well above the local high water level, with no basement. Completely paid for.

[professor-mom.livejournal.com]

Ok,I'll bite: What are your top 5 favorite movies and why? Why are movies more relevant to your life than songs?

And what have you told your daughter about movies such as Pretty Woman where the main character is a prostitute who marries a rich and powerful man.

[qos.livejournal.com]

Movies are more relevant to me than songs because even though songs can be quite powerful, the story element of movies goes deeper with me. Stories illuminate and challenge and entertain in ways that songs don't.

Selecting just five is tough, and I'm not putting these in any particular order, but. . . .

1. Star Wars -- I was 12 when it came out, and in addition to the sheer exhileration of the story, Princess Leia completely blew me away. She became my first real heroine. (http://jsh32.tripod.com/heroines/id2.html)

2. A Passage to India -- I saw this movie during my sophomore year of college, and that night I experienced the onset of my existential crisis, lost my faith, and came to believe in my own mortality for the first time. It initiated a period extreme pain and spiritual transformation.

3. The Lord of the Rings trilogy -- for sheer storytelling brilliance, the heroism (of the creators as well as the characters)

4. Moulin Rouge -- it blew me away with its theatricality, passion, and music. Even when I was in the midst of my romantic cycnicism, it made me believe in love.

5. The Philadelphia Story -- What's not to love about this witty script, with Katherine Hepburn and Cary Grant as former spouses who re-discover love?

[qos.livejournal.com]

Well, I don't own Pretty Woman, so that specific one is a non-issue for the time being.

Every so often something happens in an otherwise good movie that I want to make sure my daughter notes as being something I disagree with, or don't want her to do, or whatever.

For example, I really like Much Ado About Nothing, and I think it's a great intro to Shakespeare for young people. But I usually find myself pointing out to my daughter how quickly the passionate young man is willing to assume that he is being betrayed, how easily manipulated he is. He goes from proclaiming his love for Hero to completely condemning her, without bothering to try to determine the truth. (That's just one that leaps easily to mind.)

[professor-mom.livejournal.com]

one more question: Are there any photos of you on the internet? any photos of you in your lj portfolio?

[qos.livejournal.com]

I've posted some older photos of myself, but that was before tags, and I don't have them marked so I could find them easily. I'll post more in the future.