P.S. -- Good News Concerning The Desk and Miss Vicki

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The drawer has been installed in my desk -- although it doesn't fit neatly into the space. But it's there, and it works, and I did it myself. Yea, Me!

I had an unexpectedly good talk with Vicki yesterday. I was feeling resentful because she was being so insistent on me coming to the float meeting scheduled for this morning. A couple of minutes after she insisted that I put my name down as a contact for the float along with her own, she called me to ask, "Is this something you really want to do? Because I don't want to pressure you into doing something that you'd really rather not be involved with."

!!!!

I thanked her sincerely for asking, and then said that if she had a full crew that had everything handled, I would really rather not be involved, thank you very much -- and she said that yes, she did have everything covered, and thank you for being honest with her.

Just like grown-ups, hmm?

Then she told me that one of the things that was frequently on her mind was the concern that her boss and her boss's other direct reports (Jeannie's peers) might think that she was trying to crowd me out, or not include me, if they saw her doing things without me. (Not that she didn't want me to take part, but this was extra pressure.)

I had no idea that was a concern of hers. That certainly put some things in a new light.
It may well be that what often comes across to me as bossy and controlling is her way of trying to make sure I feel included. Her style still grates -- but evidently the motivation isn't entirely what I had thought it was.

So I think she and I took a major step forward yesterday. Which is nice.

Comments

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I should be able to make it. Thanks for inviting my daughter, but unless there are going to be other kids for her to play with, she and I will both enjoy the evening more if she stays home.

What kind of drinks would you and your crowd enjoy?

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That's a fine question. It looks like it's you, me, rbf, roomie elphie, and two of rbf's friends. I think a couple bottles of wine will be good. For the non-wine-drinkers, we have a fair bit of bar, though you should bring your mixers of choice.

As for kiddo, you're pretty lucky to have instant baby sitting. ;) I think we'd be able to entertain her as we have a closet full of games (literally). But you're probably right that hanging out with grownups still isn't any fun.

See you tomorrow!