Household Paradigm Shift

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"Listen," he said. "It's important. We are all. Free. To do. Whatever. We want. To do."
- Richard Bach, Illusions


It's amazing what happens when a breaker gets tripped in the brain so that something that just a few minutes before was unthinkable suddenly becomes thinkable.

I had another flood today. Not a big one. But the pipes backed up again, and I had water on my floor that required the intervention of Mr. Shop-Vac, and it hadn't even been raining. And when the door was open, one of the upstairs cats got in. And the kids upstairs had dug a huge hole in the backyard.

And I turned to my Ex and said, "We keep talking about what we can do to fix the plumbing -- but what if we simply start talking about moving? This house was fine for you and me and the child -- and even with your SO. But there are also the twins. This house is not going to be big enough. What if we move to a less expensive neighborhood, and buy a bigger house? Or two houses, next door to each other."

And he allowed that may be we should be thinking about that. And he asked that I write up a list of my requirements for a new place, and he would also write them up, and we could call our realtor and find out what our options were.

I want out of this house. It's bad enough with the plumbing problems. But there is not enough room for my daughter and I down here. And if we're going to move, I may end up lobbying for two houses in relatively close proximity.

We'll see.

But a conversation has started that we haven't had before. And it feels good.

Comments

[toesontheground.livejournal.com]

Wow, that, umm, opens up whole new Avenues for exploration...

Amazing what a simple shift in framing a problem can do! I had a friend who wanted to go into business doing that - although I think mainly he wanted to impress his geek friends with a business card that described him simply as a Paradigm Shifter