"Why Didn't You Scream or Fight Harder When He Started Raping You?"

Because most women learn early that making a fuss, shutting down the inappropriate advances of men, and not 'acting nice' get them punished on a day to day basis.

This is one of the best essays about rape I've ever read, and it certainly backs up some significant decisions I've made about raising Wolfling to be fierce rather than accommodating when her boundaries are violated.

I have a number of women friends who have been raped, all of them by "friends," acquaintances, or a family member. And all the ones who have been willing to talk about it have expressed their feelings of helplessness and inhibition about fighting back, especially if it might "cause a scene."


Thanks to the friend who shared this in a locked post.


None of this is to deny that men also get raped, and the essasy does also address the social conditioning of men to be aggressive, but the author's focus in this particular piece is about women's social conditioning.

Once Upon an Icon

A couple of years ago, I asked my friends here if someone could make me an animated icon which moved through stills from several Christmas specials. I remember one was the Bumble from Rudolph, and there was probably one from Peanuts. . .

Someone was kind enough to make the icon for me, but at some point it got removed, and when I had a catastrophic computer failure it was one of the image files that was never recovered.

Does the artist or anyone else still have a copy of that icon in their files??