Being Okay With Not Being Okay

[qos]

_storyteller_ went out with my daughter and I this afternoon to run a couple of errands. We're each dealing with Lohain's death in our own way, and we're both still in shock and dealing with his loss on many levels. For myself, my initial storms of weeping are over, leaving me numb, pseudo-normal.

I almost started crying when, during the drive home, the only thing I could think of to talk about was the weather. Then I realized that neither of us is "normal" or "okay" right now.

For the time being, I have to be okay with the fact that we are not okay.
It's part of the process.
But it hurts.

Comments

Normal

[qos.livejournal.com]

I hadn't reached the point of even beginning to realize that my new normal will be different from the old one.

Thank you for that wisdom.

[oakmouse]

Try to remember that where you are right now, it's normal to be other than OK. It's normal to hurt, to be angry, to be numb, to be unable to think of anything to talk about because this huge ugly unbearable new reality is sitting in the middle of your chest and ruling your every thought and feeling. Try to let yourself have these feelings and accept them. You'll do yourself much more harm by arguing with this stage of your grieving than you will by letting go and living it. I know it hurts like effing hell, but better to suffer the hurt and let the feelings clean themselves out than paper it over and let it fester.

[wlotus.livejournal.com]

I have also been learning to be okay with not being okay. You know something? It really helps. I hope it helps you, too.

[tx-cronopio.livejournal.com]

Be kind to yourself these days. xox

[dream-singer.livejournal.com]

You can expect your grief to be as deep as your love was. In this way, you honor him. Let it come.