No wonder I'm having a hard time motivating myself to step outside the boundaries of what they raised me to consider acceptable and responsible -- and which they continue to reinforce when I mention my ideas about pursuing additional opportunities.
When I was shopping for a house, I did not tell my parents. Not wanting me to make a major mistake, they would have told me the million and one things that could have gone wrong, had I taken on such a responsibility on my own, and their warnings would have discouraged me from doing what was right for me at the time. So I kept my thoughts and plans from them, telling them only after I had signed the contract agreeing to the sale. When I called them that night, my mother immediately started on why I should reconsider taking on such a huge responsibility. I interrupted her to say, "You don't understand. I am not *thinking* about buying a house. I am calling to tell you I have made an offer on a house, and the sellers have accepted my offer." (It was the first major decision I had made without first consulting them, and they were shocked into silence.)
Perhaps it would be best to keep your thoughts on your career/vocational change away from your parents, right now. You deserve to do what you know is best for you and for your daughter, and if you know their opinions and warnings will cloud your inner compass, you may want to consider keeping them out of the loop, for now. Then, when you have decided on a course of action, you can tell them what you are doing.
When Parents Mean Well, But Are A Hindrance
When I was shopping for a house, I did not tell my parents. Not wanting me to make a major mistake, they would have told me the million and one things that could have gone wrong, had I taken on such a responsibility on my own, and their warnings would have discouraged me from doing what was right for me at the time. So I kept my thoughts and plans from them, telling them only after I had signed the contract agreeing to the sale. When I called them that night, my mother immediately started on why I should reconsider taking on such a huge responsibility. I interrupted her to say, "You don't understand. I am not *thinking* about buying a house. I am calling to tell you I have made an offer on a house, and the sellers have accepted my offer." (It was the first major decision I had made without first consulting them, and they were shocked into silence.)
Perhaps it would be best to keep your thoughts on your career/vocational change away from your parents, right now. You deserve to do what you know is best for you and for your daughter, and if you know their opinions and warnings will cloud your inner compass, you may want to consider keeping them out of the loop, for now. Then, when you have decided on a course of action, you can tell them what you are doing.